CONTENTS

 

Author's Biography

 

Preface

 

PART ONE – THE PROBLEM

 

Denial and the Basics of Thought     14

     Recognizing Dysfunction

     Who Loves Ya' Baby?

     Co-dependence and Counter-dependence

     Causes of Dysfunction

     Family Patterns

     Personal Patterns

     How the Mind Works

     On Learning

     The Ego's Primary Defenses

     The Best Defense is a Good Offense?

     Other Dysfunctional Families

 

PART TWO - THE SOLUTION

 

Step 1: Humility     43

     A Story of Denial

     A Story of Humility

     Growth

     The Twelve-Step Meeting

     Up, Up and Away!

     Insanity Reborn

     More Insanity

     “I Don't Know”

 

Step 2: Hope     62

     Choices

     Choose Again

     Social Commitment

     Fear

     Desires and Expectations

     Practical Applications

     Attend a Meeting

     Summary

 

Step 3: Commitment     81  

     How does God Work?

     Doing His Will

     The Laws of God

     Summary

 

Step 4: Evaluation     92

     The Twelve-Step Inventory

      Patterns

 

Step 5: Acceptance     98

 

Step 6: Courage     104

 

Step 7: Correction     109

 

Step 8: Responsibility     114

 

Step 9: Forgiveness     121

 

Step 10: Vigilance     129

 

Step 11: Seeking     132

      Problems and Guilt Explained

      The “Accidental Miracle”

 

Step 12: Sharing     143

      Sharing as a Sponsor

      Sharing with Others

      Sharing with Children

 

Brief Summary of the Twelve Steps     153

      Contrasts

      Epilogue, “The Little Garden”

 

Appendix     163

     Glossary

     Affirmations

     The Foundation for Inner Peace

     The Twelve Steps